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A Tree Grows Under the Acropolis

 (Chapter 8)


"Do you remember any other particular incident from the Occupation? Something that made an impression on you?"


A vintage sepia photograph of an antique wooden radio in a darkened room, representing the illegal broadcasts listened to during the Occupation.


The Blackout Trench and the Doctor's Radio 

Of course I remember, because I was the firstborn and wherever my father needed to go, he'd take me with him. Some evenings we'd go to a house in what's now called Dafni — Katsiipodi, it was called then — to a family whose father was like a brother to mine. They had two sons, Grigoris and Pavlos. Strong boys, both of them. They too had come from Russia during the revolution against the Tsar.

On the feast of Saint Gregory, the older one — Grigoris, or Grisas as we called him — was celebrating his name day and invited my father to a gathering. So he took me along and we went. These people had their own house, and the younger son Pavlos was very fond of music and played piano at the time. Of course, gatherings were forbidden, and there was a blackout during that period, which meant the windows were covered with sheets of blue paper so no light could be seen from outside. This was to prevent us from being bombed.

During the Occupation, the Allied forces came more and more frequently to bomb important targets like Hassani, even though Athens was considered an unfortified city. They bombed the airport and the port of Piraeus. We didn't learn the results of these bombings, whether anyone was killed or not, because there were no mass media. The press was controlled by the Germans, newspapers were censored, and information was tightly rationed. We only heard the planes approaching and the sound of the sirens indicating that Allied aircraft were coming. The Acropolis, though, was never bombed — not by the Germans, not by the Allies. They respected the monument. I never heard of any bomb falling there.

We sat and ate. There were only a few people in the house — my father and me, this family, and perhaps two others. There was no formal limit on the number of people, but everything was conducted with great caution. Then the time came to leave and it was already late. We said our goodbyes and stepped outside. When we came out, it was pitch dark — we couldn't see where we were putting our feet, nothing, no lights in the streets, none from the houses either. We went from the warmth and light inside the house straight into absolute darkness.

In those days the streets of Athens had been dug up and turned into trenches. Every time we heard the sirens and the enemy approached — even though the Italians and Germans weren't bombing Athens — people were frightened and threw themselves into these ditches, which were called shelters. As we were walking, we didn't see one of these trenches, and when my father lifted his foot and took a step, he fell straight into it and hit hard. He was holding my hand and pulled me down with him and I fell on top of him. It was a considerable depth, but I didn't get hurt — I was a child and my body was rubber. But my father couldn't get out; he had taken a bad fall and I couldn't help him. He was groaning, calling for help: "Help! Help!" We weren't supposed to be outside at that hour, of course, but he was calling out in the hope that someone in the neighborhood would hear and come out. I managed somehow, being a child, to climb out of the trench, but I couldn't pull him up. And rather than a door opening and someone coming out to help — nothing. Everyone was afraid.

Then an Italian soldier in uniform stopped, accompanied by a Greek girl. In those days, many Greek girls got to know Italian soldiers, married them, and left for Italy.

One of them is the sister of a friend of mine. She married an Italian, lived there, had children, built her family. Not long ago she came back to visit her sister who lives in Halandri. We attended a memorial service together — my friend Anna, her sister Aliki, and me. Many girls were in a situation like Aliki's. At the time, of course, girls who took up with Italians were condemned for it.

But to tell you the truth — when I started traveling for the first time after your grandfather died, I went on a church excursion and we traveled through Italy, starting from Venice, and I fell completely in love with that country. I loved it so much, I loved the land and the people so much, that I said I could live there. What can I say — I was only fourteen during the Occupation. If I'd been eighteen, I would certainly have married an Italian.

During that time, naturally, girls had no idea what Italians or Italy were really like. Many of them were simply hungry, and if they had an Italian companion, the problem of starvation was solved — because the Italians had food in abundance: cornbread, army rations, pasta, which they gave to their girlfriends, who then shared it with their families and friends. While there were many such stories involving Italians, very few girls got involved with Germans, because the Germans were considered a cold people, not easy to approach. And their commanding officers didn't permit it either. The Italians, on the other hand, were a warm people, a people of love. If anything, it was the Italian soldiers who did the pursuing. As for me, I was a scrawny, skinny little thing — who among the Italians would have given me a second look?

I saw a girl approaching — one of ours. Our eyes had adjusted to the dark by then and we could make out faces and everything. She came up and said: "What's happening?" and I told her: "We'd gone out to celebrate a name day for a nephew of my father's, we came out of the house into the dark and didn't see the trench. My father fell in and I fell on top of him but managed to get out. He's hurt and can't get up." She spoke to the Italian, explained what had happened, but he had already sprung into action — he was already half down in the trench and pulling him up. Once he had got my father out, he put him on his back.

From that spot to our house, all the way until he laid him down in bed, my father was carried on the Italian's back. The girl and I followed behind. I will never forget that. When we got there, my mother took over, and my father stayed in bed for two months — that's how badly he'd been hurt. I don't know if anything was broken, but he was in pain all over his body. And if something had broken, it would have mended on its own, because — where would we have gone? There were no doctors, no hospitals to speak of. We did the old remedies: poultices, rubs, whatever my mother knew for the pain. She thanked them, but after that we lost them — we never saw them again, never found out what became of the girl or the Italian. But that incident left an indelible mark on me and I will never forget it, as one of the most significant chapters of my life. Even though I was only a child, it made a tremendous impression on me.

And when all of it was over and the front collapsed, when the German flag came down from the Acropolis and the Greek government returned from Cairo, the celebrations lasted a full week. What went on in Syntagma Square — joy and festivities, I can't even begin to describe it. And by then I was no longer a girl. I was growing up, and boys had started to notice me in the street. I had come into myself as a young woman — I was seventeen, a girl on the verge of becoming a woman, and it was my turn. I remember that wherever I walked, boys would whistle and flirt. Walking from my house to the Third Girls' Gymnasium on Tsami Karatassou Street, I remember passing the boys from the Sixth Boys' Gymnasium on Falirouand Petmezas, and all the boys would be posted there waiting for the girls of the Third Gymnasium to walk by.

Many romances developed this way, despite the fact that schools were separated by sex. If boys saw you on the street and made eyes at you and you responded, they'd find a way — they'd wait somewhere to talk to you and things would progress easily from there. As they say: when both the bride and groom are willing, who cares what the in-laws think.

I lived through that phase too, walking those streets — but I had no interest in any of it. I didn't respond to a single whistle, a single teasing remark, because I had other things on my mind. I was devoted to studying. I wanted that competition to continue — the worthy competition — I wanted to keep the approval and affection of my teachers. These things filled my soul, and nothing else interested me. I didn't reciprocate, didn't even seek out social contact or friendships.

As for my sister, she had a different life. She became a seamstress and stayed home. Despite our poverty, my father bought her a Singer sewing machine — the kind you operate with a foot pedal — which was a good machine, and she began to sew. He bought it in installments with easy payment terms, and so my sister started taking in sewing for households in the neighborhood and became a skilled dressmaker.

I did have one dear friend, though, whom I still remember — a truly close friend, who lived comfortably because her family was well off. They had money and lived in a nice standalone house. The family was just the mother and two daughters, because their father had died, and the mother worked as manager at a well-known jewelry shop. The shop's owner had been godfather at her wedding and helped them financially.

The younger daughter, Chrysoula, was my classmate. She wasn't a strong student. Her house was further down on my route and many times when I set out for school, we'd run into each other at the corner and walk together. And on the way back, we'd walk together again and part at the corner. At some point she said to me herself: "Would you like me to come to your house sometimes so we can study together?" — because she needed my help. She had books, she had everything. I, on the other hand, had no books — only the papers and notes I kept in class. We had no money for books and I learned everything from the lessons themselves. "Come and we'll study," I said. And so she started coming to my house with her books. After school we'd part at the corner — she'd go home and eat whatever you could ever wish for, the full works, and then she'd come to mine. Meanwhile, we ate feta cheese and bread every single day, bread with salted herring as the saying goes, and if we wanted something a little more special, we'd make a salad.

I had no social circle for flirting, but plenty found their way to me all the same. There were people who asked me out — not schoolmates from the gymnasium, but older. I met people at friends' homes: university students training to be doctors, engineering students at the Polytechnic, law students. Despite the many proposals I received from people I met at those gatherings, I accepted none of them.

Especially that one medical student from Kalymnos. All the young people I knew were from Kalymnos, come to Athens to study. My brother's godmother — whose husband was a prominent doctor — had several rooms in Neos Kosmos that she rented out to students from the provinces. Through my brother's godmother I happened to meet many of these young people. One of them, Aristeidis, was a student at the Polytechnic, and since both my friend Chrysoula and I had trouble with mathematics, we'd go there for help. We'd say: "Let's go to Aunt Frosso" — meaning my brother's godmother — "so Aristeidis can work through the problem with us." This young man had made me a proposal, and we'd gone out one afternoon so he could speak to me privately — to ask if I wanted to be in a relationship while he finished his studies at the Polytechnic, and so forth. I said no.

I didn't like that particular person, and I didn't like the other one either, the medical student from Kalymnos I mentioned. That medical student, on the other hand, was deeply, helplessly in love with me. He went to my mother and proposed marriage, and my mother told him: "What can I do? She's young, she's still in school, and you're still a student yourself. What are you asking me to arrange? Finish your studies first, let her finish school too, and then you can discuss it again." But he didn't hear any of it. He went so far as to stage a hunger strike for fifteen days because I wouldn't give him the time of day. In any case, let's leave all of that — it means nothing to me now. These things have no bearing on our lives.

But what I wanted to tell you about was the Occupation, and a friend of my father's who used to come by — a man who had a radio that hadn't been confiscated and sealed. Because they had seized radios and you couldn't listen to whatever you wanted. I was still just a girl, I was twelve when I met him and this man was thirty-two. There was a twenty-year gap between us, or perhaps even more — he might have been thirty-four. He was an established doctor, a gastroenterologist at a hospital. And so every day, this man would come for my father — every single day he did this — and the two of them would go to his home to listen to that radio.

A radio in those days was a rare thing, a luxury. If anyone found out that your radio hadn't been sealed, they might have shot you. You'd go before a tribunal — the occupation court. In any case, he had hidden it well, and my father was careful; after the news he'd come straight home.

The doctor's house was a good distance from ours — a grand, elegant home — and he lived alone, being unmarried. Inside he had a piano. He had no parents, but he had siblings: some lived in France, some in Athens. There was an age difference between him and my father, but as it turned out, it wasn't really my father he was so fond of, or thought of as a close friend. It was me he had set his sights on.

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Among the Judges

 (Chapter 19)


A vintage sepia photograph of legal documents and women's reading glasses on a mahogany desk, representing Sevasti's new social circle among the judiciary.


Supreme Court Friends, the Arrogant Contractor and a New Baby

For a stretch of years, until my children were grown, I had no life outside the house — my sole occupation was raising them, and that went on for the better part of a decade. I had no social world of my own. Whatever contact I had with people came through my husband. When we went out, we went out with his friends. That was partly the circumstances, but also because I hadn't yet come into myself — I didn't have the confidence to build a circle of my own.

I didn't have that confidence in front of my husband. He had known me without friends, without a social life, and it would have taken courage to change and tell him: I am not the same person you married. To tell him simply: you met me when I was young and now I have grown. I was always sociable by nature, but the demands of family life had made it impossible to keep up with other women. Many women were in that situation.

There was also our significant age difference, and what happened was that as he began to slow down and wind down, I was coming back to life. That was the natural order of things: Telemachos was beginning to look for the quiet of retirement while I, having gotten through the first great chapter of raising children, felt that my own time was finally starting. I grew into myself and began taking initiative. Where he had once placed me in his social circle, I built one of my own and brought him into it — naturally, without any pressure, offering him a new kind of companionship. In the decade after the children were grown, I started going out, making acquaintances. Mostly through church. One woman would introduce me to another and my circle began to widen.

I had sociability in me. Because the education I had longed for had been taken from me, I always felt drawn to people with culture and standing — I was born for those circles and I always sought out people who had something I didn't, a certain social position, a certain education, and the moment I found that something more, I would connect. Not out of snobbery, but out of a hunger to learn — because I always believed that you only grow, you only fill your own gaps, by surrounding yourself with people who are better than you.

When my children were small I had no complaint about having no free time, because I didn't have enough free time even to feel lonely. But as they grew, naturally, I began to go out — and the first place I went back to was church. I didn't go to church to make connections; I went because the church was a place of peace, a place to breathe. But like it or not, you come into contact with people, because the word 'church' — ekklesia — means assembly, a gathering of people.

In the early years my husband didn't attend the liturgy. But when he retired he gradually began to come with me. He wanted to be at church on Sundays. I went from the early morning — I liked to hear the whole service, not just arrive for the final blessing. He would follow a little later, arriving roughly midway through. But he did like passing through the church on Sundays.

When he was younger we had his social circle — people from work and family as well. You can't overlook your relatives; whatever they're like, you tolerate them. For us the family was always sacred. Crooked or lame, they are your people — whereas friends you choose, and if they don't suit you, you can say goodbye.

He also had one very good friend, Sotiris, from gymnasium. They weren't from the same village — they had met when they went to gymnasium in the nearest central town, where all the surrounding villages sent their students. Later, when both came to Athens, their paths diverged: Sotiris enrolled at the Athens University of Economics, while Telemachos, for various reasons, joined the gendarmerie. For a number of years they lost track of each other, until they met again in Xanthi, where Telemachos was posted and Sotiris was doing his military service. One day they ran into each other by chance in the street. 'Well, Telemachos!' 'Well, Sotiris!' They embraced and never lost touch again after that. My husband always had someone.

So when I had grown into myself and my children had grown up, I found myself at a point in life where I was very content. I enjoyed my circle of friends and my husband enjoyed it too, because I never pushed anything on him that he didn't want. We mostly saw women friends — not necessarily couples or families — and my husband came along. The period when I brought him into that circle was remarkable. I'll tell you one thing that happened right here in this house: I set a table for people from the Supreme Court. I had the former President of the Supreme Court in my home.

I met him at the church of Agios Spyridonas, where he used to come to worship — he was a devout Christian. I used to go there with my choirmaster to study Byzantine music. And it turned out that for some years the President of the Supreme Court was also studying Byzantine music. One day I asked him: 'Do you perhaps know Manthos T., the public prosecutor?' 'Manthos!' he said. 'A wonderful young man! How do you know him?' 'Manthos,' I told him, 'is a family friend — our parents have been friends since before we were born.' 'I'll see him at the Supreme Court and give him your regards!'

There was a young woman named Lina, who'd later become Manthos' wife. I had held Lina as a baby and rocked her to sleep. I knew her because her parents were also from Kalymnos and we lived in the same neighborhood. Back when my mother took me to learn dressmaking to pull me out of school, she took me to Lina's mother, kyria Thalia [Mrs Thalia].

At that time Lina's mother was still unmarried. But her brother was studying law and had a fellow student from Rhodes. Eventually kyria Thalia the dressmaker married that friend of her brother's — his name was Lefteris. When the islands were reunited with Greece and needed to be staffed with professionals — doctors, lawyers, notaries — Lefteris asked to go to his home island of Rhodes and become a notary there. They had two children.

We had a piece of land in Rhodes that belonged to my father, and when we went to see to it we stayed at Thalia's house. That's when I held little Lina in my arms and played with her. But when the girls were grown, Lefteris sent them to Athens to study. Both of them got into the Law School.

When the girls came to Athens, their father found a place a little further down from here. He found the apartment and came to see me — I was married by then, with a husband and children. I introduced him to my husband and said: 'This is kyrios Lefteris from Rhodes, a notary. He has brought his daughters to study.' He explained that he had brought them here because the university was nearby, and he also said: 'I've brought them here so you can keep an eye on them.' I was surprised — 'How am I supposed to keep an eye on grown girls?' He simply meant that if they needed anything, they would have someone to turn to, they could knock on my door.

The younger daughter, Lina, followed a legal path and became a judge. She spent her early years on the bench in Patras. But whenever she came to Athens for any reason, she would always come to visit me. One day when Lina came to see me, she noticed that a short way down from my building an old bakery had been demolished and a new apartment block was going up in its place. She thought she had a little money saved and perhaps with her father's help she could buy an apartment in Athens. So she went upstairs and asked for whoever was in charge. She told him she was interested in one of the apartments, from the plans.

But the contractor, looking at this small young woman, spoke to her with contempt. She explained that she was a district judge and so on, but he laughed — he roared with laughter — and said, 'Ha! And I'm a Supreme Court Justice.' Dripping with sarcasm.

She kept talking to him: 'But… I am interested in buying one.' In the end he told her: 'Off you go, sweetheart — bring your mother and we'll talk.'

She didn't look the part because she looked so young. She came to my house in tears and told me: 'Kyria Sevasti, [Mrs Sevasti] what happened to me! Could you please come with me and say that you are my aunt?'

'We're going right now,' I said.

'Listen,' I told him, 'what exactly do you need, sir? Shall we bring a birth certificate to show you how old this young woman is? Or her university degree to convince you? I am sorry,' I told him, 'but you mocked and sneered at a woman who is currently a serving member of the judiciary. Now then — I am her aunt. What is it you want?' And I finished with: 'Come to an agreement with this young woman, who has both the will and the means to buy an apartment in your building. Will you sell to her or not?'

'I'm sorry, I'm sorry,' he began, 'it's my fault entirely, I apologize both to you and to the young lady. She didn't register to me — I took her for a high-school girl and I was joking around. That's why I told her to bring her mother.'

I told him: 'And how would her mother come? This young woman is from Rhodes — her parents are in Rhodes. She makes her own decisions. She is a district judge, sir. Is she not capable of making decisions about her own life?'

The contracts were signed on the spot, and you should have seen the accommodations he made for her afterward. He agreed to her payment terms and every single modification she requested for the apartment. He was delighted — everything was still on paper, and he had managed to sell his very first apartment to someone of that standing in the judiciary.

She bought her apartment, and it was around that time that she met Manthos, who also served in the legal system. They were married at Agios Dionysios the Areopagite, and they lived in that apartment for many years. It was there that she brought her first child into the world — the child who is now a distinguished doctor with a postgraduate degree and her own clinic near Alexandras Avenue, little Thalitsa. They brought Thalitsa to this house of mine for about three and a half years, because Lina used to leave for the courts early in the morning and I looked after the little one. My own children were all grown but none had married yet and had children of their own, so I didn't yet have my grandmotherly duties. My husband was either at work or at the coffeehouse, and I had a great deal of time.

One morning Lina came and asked me: 'Please — I have a very early court session and I have nowhere to leave the child. Could I bring Thalitsa for you to keep until midday?' I told her: 'Lina, what are you even asking? Bring her here with her stroller and everything that comes with her.' The little girl would stay with me until midday, until her mother came to collect her. I made Lina a proposition: 'Whenever this happens, bring her — don't hesitate.' And that's exactly what she did.

But before long I had gotten so fond of the child that I was asking for her every day. I loved that little girl because she was so gentle and so bright. She was a treasure. Once she began to understand the world around her, she started asking questions — endless questions. Always asking. If I answered one, she went straight on to another — why this, why that — until finally I'd tell her: 'Well, I don't have any more answers for you!'

It was plain that this child was going to become something extraordinary. And she had grown so attached to me that she didn't want to leave. When her mother came in the afternoon to take her home, she would cry and say: 'We'll stay with Kyria Sevasti.' And I had such a wonderful time with her — I would take her with me when I went to visit my mother, and she made my mother happy too.

Our whole lives, my mother and I and the other women — we raised children together. Our friends' children were our own.


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